Libido: life affirming force

When life slips through your fingers, lick it like it's honey

A curious thing happened on Substack recently. My feed was overcome with a variety of takes and answers on conjugal duty, the obligation for one spouse to have sex with the other, independent of their own desire or consent. I am not going to touch this mess with a 10-foot pole; however, I was struck by this recurring pattern in many contributions: a variation on “barring any illness of disability, you should generally feel attracted to your spouse, and if not, address it”, or “it’s different if you’re sick or disabled, or very recently post partum of course, but it’s normal for a marriage to involve sex.”

Why the offhand exclusion?